Today I thought I could tackle quite a relevant topic, individualisation and being an individual. Sometimes I find that in a society which seems to be quite accepting of different types of people, it can be still difficult to be an individual when others are not.
Having unique interests (my sister has very unique interests) Please never loose interests you love; my sister loves coding which isn’t necessarily a mainstream interest! Don’t let anyone tell you reading books and going to museums are for ‘geeks’, your interests are what make up your personality, you should never feel embarrassed about them.
Not ‘following the crowd’– please never feel like you need to follow the crowd to fit in. It can make you do things you wouldn’t otherwise do and so regret in the future such as smoking, drinking too many shots etc. If you feel like people are pressurising you into doing things you don’t want to do and don’t accept you are not comfortable doing so, perhaps you should distance yourself from these people. Always remember you are in individual and not a reincarnation of your friends.. This can be difficult but if you are not being yourself you will not enjoy what you are doing anyway.
A Bowie wall from Sheffield
Don’t follow the crowd like this art piece!
Boys-Don’t feel like you have to have a boyfriend or constantly hang out with guys if you don’t want to!! Don’t feel pressurised into doing anything you aren’t comfortable with as you will regret it in the future. You should only be with guys who appreciate you and treat you with respect ALWAYS.
Partying. I’m putting this in a separate section as it is an important part of later teenage years. I don’t mind partying, clubs etc but it isn’t one of my favourite things to do. I enjoy the dancing and socialising part mostly to be honest. Obviously having anxiety can make social situations in general difficult but if you are with people who you trust and will look after you it should be ok. Unfortunately, this didn’t always work out for me. There have been instances of one of my best friends ditching me for someone else before a party and I had to go in on my own. This was very very intimidating for me as I dislike being the centre of attention on my own. However, it was a good experience from a confidence point of view. I met some old friends at the party and had a nice time. The friend and her ‘friend’ ending up ditching each other anyway and doing things I wouldn’t want to do, so it worked out for the best.
Finding people with the same interests as you can be difficult but it will happen. You have to try to be kind and approachable to everyone. Joining new clubs (in or out of school) is a great way to meet new people with similar interests even if they are in different years
School/revision- Don’t believe people when they say they aren’t revising, they quite often are and will emphasise ‘how little work they have done’ when they get an A* or A on that history test. Some people like to lie to make themselves feel much better, don’t follow their lead! If you want to revise, go for it! Also, don’t over do it though! You don’t have to play a part in the mind games of certain individuals, it is not healthy at all.
Let me know if you like this type of blog post and what else you would like to see from me!! Sending you all good vibes and enjoy the remainder of summer ✨🌙🕊